People Development & Executive Coaching

What is it about some relationships?

Why is it that sometimes, when we meet another person for the first time, intuitively we know that a ‘click’ has occurred, and that we are going to like each other, and that our connecting is important for both our futures.  Be it in business, in friendship, in community, in families, whatever the environment, it is a positive energy that both parties want to harness. 

At other times we instantly find some common ground, and know this relationship is going to make a difference to our wellbeing, learning, and life experience.  Other experiences tell us that we will have to persevere to build a relationship, but in the end it will be worthwhile. 

And at other times, it does not matter how hard we try, but we do not even get to first base, and the relationship is just never going to be there.

So why can’t we get on with everyone?  Aren’t we all just human at the end of the day?  Don’t we all have the same hierarchy of needs, as Maslow pointed out to us?   Don’t we all have some common ground somewhere – even if it is just that we are all living in this world?

It appears there are some important human traits that are common to a relationship ‘clicking’. Or not.

How often do you lose yourself when first meeting someone, and give your ego away, so that you can concentrate on the other person completely?

How well do you build rapport, empathy and trust?

How deep is your listening ability?

And how much do you care that a relationship is built in the first place? 

Take a long hard look at your behaviours – it could surprise you that a tiny shift in your approach, and a focus on the other party brings you surprising results!